Forgiveness can be a major struggle. I could not count how many people I have spoken with that grapple with this and resistance to forgiving can be very strong (and this includes forgiving ourselves). So let's think about it a little. Why do we hold on to hurts, go over them in our minds, and refuse to forgive? Because we don't want to forget the hurt because that somehow protects us against future hurt? Because we believe forgiving someone means condoning their behavio